Some guys are embarrassed to ask their lovers for some kink that might make them seem like a weirdo, so you're definitely not alone. Ultimately, if you can't be yourself and you stay repressed in your marriage, you won't be happy. Many people probably just compartmentalize and hope for the best, but that seems sad. My wife has no kink or interest in sex beyond the normal occasional missionary. I feel like we've reached a tacit compromise...I don't pressure her for sex when I know she doesn't want it, but when she's in the mood and we do it, she lets me do my things... Haha. Great article!!